Doing time for love...

I love you and it's not a crime. So don't punish me as if it were one.

The eternal conundrum...

Note- Was inspired to throw these thoughts out to the world while offering support to a friend who is going through a tough time...strangely, but not so strangely, we're both in the same boat..that's probably why we're such good friends??

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Help me understand, why- not being lovers means not being friends?

For me, love has always grown out of friendship, out of knowing a person in and out. It has grown out of watching him be an angel at one time and the devil's incarnate at another time. It has grown out of being with him through his thick and thin, through his bouts of insanity and times of intellectual prime.

Sad but true that love fizzles out at some point, but how does that in anyway stop him from being my friend or ending the very foundation of our relationship which is friendship?

I have fallen in and out of love a few times and I've been fortunate enough to continue being friends with the blokes I have expressed my feelings to. However I've been not-so-fortunate with some others...I miss the companionship of those that decided to strain the friendship..I so wish they saw the world from my eyes and realize that we've all got one life and that as humans, most of us will live through the trials and tribulations, if we chose to that is. The point I'm trying to make is that, being in love with you or anyone else who doesn't reciprocate the same feelings, is a problem that is mine and mine alone. So don't waste your time severing the friendship trying to "help" me or speed the process of my getting over you. I will, when I think I'm ready. Be empathetic if at all you want to be anything and continue extending your support as a friend helping another, at a time of need....THAT my love, will help me and my little world will continue to be the world I want to live in.

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I want to be my own shadow, not some other pretty girl's...

My Icebreaker Speech at Toastmasters- Change

Hey All,

Joined Toastmasters International and gave my first speech aka Ice Breaker recently...

This was the speech I'd prepared..however I didn't give the exact same speech and let myself speak easy.

Let me know what you think...

Watch this space for more such speeches as I've decided to document them in my blog..;-)

Cheers,
Suzie

Change!!

Change, is inevitable. The sooner you realize this and embrace it, the easier it will be for you to deal with.

Most of us are resistant to change, and this is due to the fact that we are comfortable where we are in our lives and change means an alteration of that state of comfort.

I’ve always resisted change all my life until the time my sister was born. This was until a couple of years ago when I realized that everything in life is temporary but for change.

I have a sister who is 11 years younger and with her birth, a lot of things changed in my life. I grew up overnight and was the “older one” even though I was only 11 when she was born. Getting adjusted to having a sibling around after 11 years of being the only child, was a major change.

To quote another example of my resistance for change – I had the opportunity to study in 11 academic institutions throughout South India. This is because my dad had a transferrable job so we kept moving to different cities every few years. At first, it was really exciting to move to a new city and experience a whole new culture but on the flip side I noticed that I was left with very few friends and over time, I lost touch with them. Although, now I feel I should have been born 20 years later, in the era of Facebook and Twitter but I guess it’s never too late!

After several such moves, realization dawned on me and I accepted the fact that losing friends and relationships was just part of the deal. That’s when I started looking at the positive side of it. I got to study in some of the best schools and colleges and developed a very cosmopolitan outlook towards life. I ended up learning several languages and the constant change also helped me learn more about different cultures. I realized very early on in life that no matter how culturally diverse each of us are, deep down we’re one and the same-just humans of a different color, different creed and different background but tied together with the same set of emotions.

The constant change in my life has helped me switch academic and career streams seamlessly. Here I am a Management and Law Grad donning the role of a Project Manager for a Financial Services major! 10 years from now, don’t be surprised if you see me as a Top Chef in my own swanky and chic restaurant!

The essence of my story is that change has helped me broaden my perspective in life and has opened a plethora of opportunities that I thought didn’t exist before! Most of us in this group live away from our family and it is not easy to move and adapt to a new life but I realize that having done so, I have given myself the opportunity to not only re-discover myself but also actively pursue my interests. The very fact that I want to change myself as a person was the reason for me joining Toastmasters and this very change has given the opportunity to speak in front of all of you!

As they say, it’s all in the mind, if you can tune your mind a little bit, you end up seeing the world from a whole new angle!

And remember, change is growth, both intellectual and emotional!

Religion or Love?

A friend's quote on Facebook got me thinking, below is the question and the reply..will keep adding to the reply..

Is love more important than religion or is religion more important than love??

What I had to say- If you ask me, it is about continuing to be in love with the person in spite of his or her religious preferences. I say "continuing" to be in love because falling in love is NOT a conscious effort, it just happens whereas being in love with the person by accepting their pluses and minuses is a conscious effort and is something that will take a lot of time and effort from both the parties...

I cry...

I cry when am happy,
I cry when am sad,
I cry when am frustrated and
I also cry when I am livid,
I cry when a loved one dies and I also cry when a loved one comes into this earth,
I cry when I am alone and I also cry when I want to be left alone,
I cry when I realize I am being punished and
I also cry when I realize how truely blessed I am

Most people think that crying is an act of weakness..for me crying is an integral part of every emotion that I go through..it seems to complement the emotion...

Agonizingly yours....

It feels like I've known you all my life,
yet I know so little

It feels like I've loved you all my life,
yet it feels like blossoming love

I miss the times when we've not talked, and
I believe you when you say that I am in your thoughts
but how I wish, you'd just pick up the phone and showed that you cared..

I wish I'd met you sooner,
"love" would have had a whole different meaning then,
now that you are ready to take on a new life, I wish that life was a new beginning with me instead,

I wish you would never leave,
but as I stand here, giving you a goodbye hug,
I hope my friend, you realize,
you are as much in my thoughts as I am in yours,

I wish I could say "I love you" and
be forever yours.....